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Victim Mentality and Arrested Development

Numbers 13:25-33 AMP

‘When they returned from spying out the land, at the end of forty days, they came to Moses and Aaron and to all the congregation of the sons of Israel in the Wilderness of Paran at Kadesh, and brought back word to them and to all the congregation, and showed them the land’s fruit. They reported to Moses and said, “We went in to the land where you sent us; and it certainly does flow with milk and honey, and this is its fruit. But the people who live in the land are strong, and the cities are fortified (walled) and very large; moreover, we saw there the descendants of Anak [people of great stature and courage]. 

[The people descended from] Amalek live in the land of the Negev (South country); the Hittite, the Jebusite, and the Amorite live in the hill country; and the Canaanites live by the [Dead] Sea and along the side of the Jordan.” Then Caleb quieted the people before Moses, and said, “Let us go up at once and take possession of it; for we will certainly conquer it.” But the men who had gone up with him said, “We are not able to go up against the people [of Canaan], for they are too strong for us.” So they gave the Israelites a bad report about the land which they had spied out, saying, “The land through which we went, in spying it out, is a land that devours its inhabitants. And all the people that we saw in it are men of great stature. There we saw the Nephilim (the sons of Anak are part of the Nephilim); and we were like grasshoppers in our own sight, and so we were in their sight.”‘

Moses sent the spies to scout out the land promised by God. Ten spies brought back an evil report, but Caleb encouraged everyone that they were more than able to conquer it through God.

 However, the ten spies began to doubt the word of God. They lacked faith and perceived themselves to be grasshoppers in the eyes of the giants. Their minds were limited. Throughout the 40 years of the wilderness, the Generation that came from Egypt constantly murmured and complained. Because of this, they returned to Egypt in their hearts. 

  • Acts 7:39 Our fathers were unwilling to be subject to him [and refused to listen to him]. They rejected him, and in their hearts turned back to Egypt. 

Because of their perception of themselves, they stayed in the wilderness and died in the wilderness. Interestingly, the giants never said that the children of God looked like grasshoppers in their eyes; instead, the spies (children of God) had A false image of themselves, which caused them to believe they were like grasshoppers. So what causes people to view themselves with such a limited mind frame? Typically, it is A victim mindset. 

Victim Mentality Defined:

Someone with A victim mentality has the belief (mindset) that they are always suffering; this may be true in some cases; however, the victim will never take responsibility or accountability for their actions. Those with A victim mentality will always see themselves unable to overcome any obstacles in life, and they typically believe “life is against me.”

This mentality is what causes several to become stagnated (dormant, cease developing) in life. In addition, others are usually to blame when they are told to be accountable/responsible for their actions; as A result, they become chronic blame shifters. 

Blame shifting has been happening since the beginning of time in the Garden of Eden when God confronted Adam about eating the forbidden fruit he blamed God for “the woman he gave him”  

  • Gen 3:12 ‘And the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me—she gave me [fruit] from the tree, and I ate it.” 

When God confronted Eve, she shifted the blame to the serpent

  • Gen 3:13 Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this that you have done?” And the woman said, “The serpent beguiled and deceived me, and I ate [from the forbidden tree].” ‘

Like Adam & Eve, those who shift the blame have difficulty taking responsibility for their problems. It is always the result of what someone has done to them; this further reinforces the victim mentality. 

 Such people have A (woe is me) syndrome. Victim playing (also known as playing the victimvictim card, or self-victimization) is the fabrication or exaggeration of victimhood for various reasons such as to justify abuse of others, manipulate others, and cope strategy attention-seeking diffusion responsibility. A person who repeatedly does this is known as a ‘professional victim.’ Victim Playing

Emotional Witchcraft:

Professional victims do not want to grow up, and they rather remain in their sin. They usually escape to victimhood, which is designed to get you into them. These are the attention seekers; they stay, eternal victims until they are truly ready to be set free. This is considered emotional witchcraft. BEWARE! 

The purpose of witchcraft is to manipulate, control, dominate and intimidate. As mentioned above, those with a victim mindset typically work via manipulation to draw others into themselves. Generally, after you have spent time talking with the person who “assumes” they are the victim, you feel drained because that is what they’re assigned to do. When you tell these individuals that they should take accountability and responsibility for their actions, they become offended

  • Proverbs 18:19 A brother offended is harder to win over than a fortified city, And contentions [separating families] are like the bars of a castle. ‘

The offended

An offense is A annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself or one’s standards or principles. When someone is offended, it causes separation, disunity, strife, and division. A spirit of offense is dangerous and is rooted in pride; when someone becomes offended, they do not see their offense as A issue of their own or their own doing. Instead, these individuals always blame others. 

For example, let’s take the issue of Abortion. Recently there was A law passed in Texas prohibiting abortions after six weeks. Since the passing of this law, several groups have spoken out in disbelief. They are offended that this law will stop the legalization of murder in the first degree. That’s correct, Abortion is murder in the first degree, and GOD hates hands that shed innocent blood Prov 6:17. When someone fornicates (sex outside of marriage), there is A possibility of pregnancy or, worse, A deadly disease. The person(s) involved in this act of sexual sin should take accountability for their sin. The United States promotes “The Pride of Life,” so many are encouraged to believe it is “my body, my choice,” making it easier for women to choose if they will be accountable for their sin. When you approach someone considering Abortion and advise them they have committed or will be committing murder; they are quickly offended and begin to blame others; once again, we see people shifting blame. 

Victim Mentality in the bible

Jesus could have resulted in being A victim; after all, he left his first estate to die for our sins. But, instead, he who knew no sin became sin for us so that we may be set free. 

  • 2nd Corinthians 5:21 For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him.

He came to do the works of the father; he was obedient until death. So walking with God is not about emotionalism; it’s based on obedience. God commands us to obey! 

The miracle at Bethesda is A perfect example of someone with A victim mentality. In John Chapter 5, we read about those near the sheep gate by the pool who laid sick, blind, lame, and withered. They were waiting for the stirring of the water; an angel of the Lord went down into the pool at appointed seasons and stirred up the water. The first one to go in after the water was stirred was healed of his disease. There was A man who had been ill for 38 years; Jesus saw him laying there and knew he had been helpless and in that condition for A long time. Jesus asked him an essential question “Do you want to be made well”? 

When Jesus asked him if he wanted to be made whole, he began to explain why it was impossible. Others were passing him up; he could not make it to the pool for his healing, etc. Jesus never responded to his victim mentality; he commanded him to get up and pick up his bed and walk. He never responded to his wounded mentality. 

Jesus asked him first if he wanted to be made whole because several people do not want to be whole. These are the eternal victims; they do not want to be made whole because this will cause the victim to be responsible and accountable. 

Jesus wants us to be made whole, but if we continue to meditate on our life circumstances, this opens the door to narcissism & pride. Remember, God, resist the pride; he only gives grace to the humble.  

  • Proverbs 21:24 Proud,” “Haughty,” “Scoffer,” are his names Who acts with overbearing and insolent pride. ‘

Narcissism is the term used in psychology to describe a preoccupation with self. It is a Greek term taken from the name of the mythological Narcissus, who fell in love with his image and was doomed to die because he would not turn away from it. A narcissist is a person who displays a high level of selfishnessvanity, and pride. He sees everything from a “how does this affect me?” perspective. Empathy is impossible for the narcissist because his only perspective is the one centered on self. In psychology, narcissism is seen as a broad spectrum of conditions ranging from normal to pathological.

In short, the narcissist is bound by insolent pride due to their inability to empathize with others; their focus is only on themselves. Therefore, the narcissistic proud person MUST humble themselves under the mighty hand of God. 

  • 1st Peter 5:6 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time.

If you notice you’ve been operating with A victim mentality, Jesus is calling us to repent. Our key to no longer walking in victimhood is selflessness. We are to be humble like Jesus was, in A place of servanthood with A spirit of humility. This is the key to our deliverance from A victim mentality..humility. 

It is my prayer that you will keep seeking heavenly things where Christ is. Set your mind and keep focused habitually on heavenly things; do not set your mind on earthly temporal things. I pray that God will give you A heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, which has the power to endure injustice. I pray that you will forgive others, and all wounds in your life will be healed in Jesus’s name. Amen! Col 3

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in and rely confidently on the Lord with all your heart And do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him, And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way]. ‘

God Bless You All!!

~Tanicia P.

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